Food is love.
Gastronomical love.
Remember the medical term for a woman's genitals is the sheath of a sword. You could get angry about this, but really? Does it really matter? It's better to accept that language is always biased and let him be a knight in shining armour if that's what he wants to be.
There's a lot of physical variances in the world. For example in bellybuttons, some people have an inny and some an outy. When it comes to sexuality, what if we are a series of actions we perform rather than a blueprint? What if what you have dictates more how you perform than how you feel about someone else?